Crowdsourcing: Resources for dealing with difficult family members

[tanaqui]

With the holiday season coming up, at least some of us are likely to have to spend time with family members who are "difficult". Whether that's because they're Trump supporters, conspiracy theorists, racist, homophobic, various flavors of awful about mental health or physical disabilities or just emotionally abusive and permanently out to undermine us and our choices (and very possibly all of those at once.)

This post is for people to share good resources about how to survive having to spend time with these people. Drop links in the comments and I'll add them to the post.

Dealing with difficult behaviour from family members

https://www.selfdefensefund.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/Verbal-Defense.pdf

https://www.amazon.com/You-Cant-Say-That-Me/dp/0471003999

https://www.amazon.com/How-Disagree-Without-Being-Disagreeable/dp/0471157015

https://accelerate.uofuhealth.utah.edu/leadership/how-to-disagree-without-being-disagreeable

https://divethru.com/how-to-have-difficult-conversations-with-your-loved-ones/

https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-navigate-difficult-relationships-with-family-5120173

https://www.marriage.com/advice/family/abusive-family-members/

https://www.tonyrobbins.com/mental-health/dealing-with-abusive-family-members/

https://www.beautyafterbruises.org/blog/toxicfamilyholidayguide

https://www.choosingtherapy.com/deal-with-narcissist/

https://www.fairparkcounseling.com/how-to-deal-with-a-drunk-family-member/

https://www.thedailymeal.com/holidays/13-things-never-discuss-thanksgiving-dinner/

https://www.beliefnet.com/love-family/holidays/12-rules-for-a-more-peaceful-and-happy-holiday.aspx

Talking about difficult topics with family members

Resources for children:
https://jgateways.org/news/blog/talking-about-israel-with-children-with-disabilities-and-mental-health-needs/ (broadly applicable to any hot topic)

https://reformjudaism.org/reform-jewish-life/youth-family-community/parenting/how-talk-children-about-conflict-israel

Recommended Books

"The Verbally Abusive Relationship" by Dr Patricia Evans
"The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense" By Dr Suzette Elgin


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Comments

[jazzyjj]

Thanks for these links, as well as all other ones posted here. Fortunately, I myself have never had to deal with particularly difficult family members. Sure there's sibling rivalry, and there was definitely a bit of that in my family. Or at least there was back when I was a kid, but it always got resolved rather quickly. I'll definitely check out all of these as time permits.